Funeral flowers will only bear the name of the sender. You can request your online florist to send the express flower delivery to the funeral home for the family of the departed, but the card or sash should not have the family’s name or the departed’s name on them. Opt to write your family name, department name, or company name instead. This will let the family know who to thank after the funeral is over.
Sympathy flowers, on the other hand, can be addressed to the members of the family. You can request your florist in Singapore to send the sympathy flowers to the residential address or family business. Sympathy flowers show your support to the bereaved family during these times of sorrow and loss while funeral flowers pay tribute and respect to the departed.
Sending a card with the condolence wreath flowers is a good practice. However, it can be difficult to know what words to write to express condolences and extend comfort to the bereaved family. Consider how you put your words together to convey the message of consolation and understanding that you want to express.
Funeral flowers and sympathy flowers go a long way to express the message words can’t say. It is understandable that when someone sends these types of flowers, they mean well and are showing remembrance of the departed.
Writing a Message for the Bereaved
Remember that you are not writing a eulogy. Keep it short. The family members won’t have time to read a lengthy letter. Be sure to sign with your name, family name, business name, or department name if you are sending as a group. Be sure to include your contact information as well.
If you are afraid that funeral flowers and your card will offend or upset those who are suffering the loss, be cautious of their customs, religious beliefs, and requests to omit flowers if any. Most beliefs are open to receiving funeral flowers and a message of consolation. These words can provide comfort to those who lost their loved one. Your message can show your love, respect, and consolation during these trying times.
What to Avoid Saying
Some words convey a wrong message even if the sender means well. Words like “I know how you feel,” “they lived a full life,” and “it’s for the best” are often frowned upon. Even if you have experienced the loss of a relative like theirs, you still cannot attempt to put yourself in their shoes and assume they are feeling the same amount of grief and strength to make it through. Never ever compare their loss to yours.
Also, avoid humor in your writing. Don’t make it sound impersonal. However, if you don’t know the departed too well, generic messages will do. It is also best to speak highly of the deceased. It can be comforting to the bereaved family when you remember their loved one in a positive way.
Also, don’t ask the family to narrate details of how the person died. Often, you will find out this information from other guests and extended family members who are more willing to tell you the details. Someone who experienced the loss firsthand will always find it difficult to talk about details of the death in-depth.
Send the messages along with the funeral flowers. Handwritten messages create a personal touch. Avoid sending your message via text, DM, or PM on social media sites. Even if you live overseas, you can request for the flower delivery to send funeral flowers and a message to the funeral home in Singapore.
Don’t be afraid to use universal languages for grief and sorrow as these are time-tested and generally-accepted. With these types of messages, you can be sure that you won’t be biting your tongue with your words. These messages can be written on the card or on ribbons or the sash attached to the standing spray or funeral flower basket.
- In loving memory
- With my deepest sympathy
- With heartfelt condolences
- You will always be in our hearts
On the card, these words can also be written:
- I’m so sorry for your loss
- Sending love to you and your family
- Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
- Please accept our loving thoughts in this time of need
- Please acknowledge these flowers and the words we are unable to speak
- Please know that we are here for you
- Please accept our condolences on the loss of your (father/mother/child/etc)
Appropriate Flower Arrangements
Most online florists will have a selection of pre-arranged floral wreaths, sprays, and baskets for funerals. You can request same day flower delivery services to ensure the flowers arrive in time for the funeral. Wreaths can be given by anyone and symbolize the afterlife. Sprays can be given by entities and groups of colleagues and friends.
Extended family members can also give standing sprays and flower baskets. The grandchildren or the young kids of the departed can give the inside pieces that decorate the inside of the casket. The casket flowers should be purchased by the immediate family. Refrain from giving casket flowers unless you are a member of the immediate family. Half-casket sprays are adorned during open-casket viewing while full casket sprays are reserved for the funeral.
Flower varieties that can be included in the arrangement are often white in color. White lilies and piece lily are generally-acceptable flowers at funerals. In Europe, chrysanthemums are used solely for funerals. You can opt for pink, white, and yellow roses to express sympathy to the family of the bereaved. Tulips, orchids, and live plants can be brought home after the funeral.